Visions of a Freeman - Brain
Age - 08, March of 2017
A view into the
Reality seen from the Eyes of a TRIBalance.
Would you like some Age Reliant Feminism with that Tea,
Academic Feminism: The Tendency to advocate for
more Rights for all Female Humans regardless of age in a way
that it can be explained to School Children, specially Young Girls.
Fake Feminism: Feminism that is used to try to
justify the existence of the Sex Industry while defending the so
called Right to get Sexually Aroused (which some try to confuse with Feminism).
Includes material that would not
be allowed by a Teacher in a Children School.
Example of Fake Feminism:
Why my nude selfie is a feminist statement
Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah
In a context where women’s bodies are heavily policed and Emma
Watson is under fire over her Vanity Fair cover, a post on
Instagram is deeply political
My Instagram selfie. Photograph: Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah/Instagram
Wednesday 8 March 2017 13.38 GMT
I was blissfully unaware of the Emma Watson controversy that
dominated the news on Monday. While the actor defended her
choice to show part of her breasts in a Vanity Fair cover,
saying “I really don’t know what my tits have to do with it”, my
partner and I were taking a much needed getaway over the long
weekend that marked the 60th anniversary of Ghana’s independence.
On our first morning we lingered under the sheets. I picked up
my phone, started browsing through my Instagram, and then felt a
stroke of inspiration. “Let’s take a picture,” I said. “You’re
going to post it,” he asked? “Yes,” I replied. I lifted my hand
above us, he reached over to cover my breast and I clicked three
times in quick succession. We looked at the results, and agreed
on which image to post.
Now, I’m no Instagram celebrity. My pictures don’t attract
thousands of likes, and I have fewer than a thousand followers.
But within three seconds I had a direct message from one of my
friends: “Hun, is your Instagram page private?" “No,” I replied,
and then began a short exchange. He was concerned about this
picture coming back to haunt me. Perhaps it would surface one
day when I applied for a high-profile job, he said. I brushed
off the slight sense of irritation I felt about the implication
that I hadn’t thought through the consequences of my action, and
reminded him that that ship had sailed a long time ago – with
I started Adventures from the Bedrooms of African Women in
January 2009 with my college bestie, Malaka Gyekye. Our blog can
be described as “sex positive” – we presume sexual pleasure,
bodily autonomy and multiple orgasms to be the right of every
African woman. We share our own deeply personal stories of sex,
and encourage our contributors who come from across the African
continent and its diaspora to also bare all.
Most contributors choose to write under pseudonyms, and
understandably so. Our patriarchal societies still judge women
according to Victorian mores and colonial standards of morality.
In our increasingly fundamentalist world, religious leaders rage
against homosexuality and, in unholy alliances, pressure
politicians to pass laws banning same sex marriage. And so our
sex-positive conversations are mediated by the realities of our
contexts: by the need to keep people safe, and the constant
negotiation with respectability politics and power structures.
Emma Watson: Vanity Fair photo does not undermine feminism
But African women are increasingly open in talking about sex and
sexuality. We recognise that the very act of voicing our sexual
desires, fantasies and challenges (speaking up about what
society says should be private) is deeply political. If you
cannot speak about your own body, then what can you speak about?
If governments can pass hateful legislation that limits our
access to comprehensive reproductive healthcare, and determines
who we can love, then our bodies are political and we must
assert our right to show them off however we want to.
We have to love our bodies, pleasure our bodies, and protect our
bodies from those who seek to make them less than they are – or
tell us how we must clothe our bodies, perform our bodies, or
inhabit public spaces. We claim all the spaces, online and
offline, and dare to show off our diverse beauty, even when it
doesn’t conform to societal standards and norms.
Back in the real world after my “baecation”, I recognise
Watson’s incredulity that sexuality and feminism apparently
can’t coexist, but I do think “tits” have everything to do with
feminism. Some types of bodies dominate the pages of glossy
magazines and become an impossible standard of beauty against
which all other types – queer bodies, fat bodies, differently
abled, older or non-binary bodies – are judged. And these other
types, bereft of celebrity status, rarely get celebrated.
Sometimes this is why we take and post nude selfies online: we
see our beauty, so we capture it, share it, bask in the likes,
and take pleasure in the affirming comments received from our
communities. Yes, drowning out the caution and disapproval were
compliments on Instagram: “You guys are hawwttt!!!” some read. “Ayayayayayay!
It’s no accident that most of these comments came from women who
for the most part are feminist, and recognise that sometimes a
nude selfie is really just one way to stand up to respectability